Where I thought I should start.

So it’s 2002 and I’ve just turned 30 single mum and about to go out for new year and meet this guy who is what I thought was ants pants. Typical man who rode a bike had a beard and tattoos. What every girl who’s been with the complete opposite guy thinks. This guy is what I’ve been looking for. A real man and someone who will take care of me. Well he did take care of us and also took most of who I was as a person for a long time.

Let’s get it straight. I could have left I could have called the police I could have done lots of things But I didn’t. I stayed for 11 years and married him and apart from the emotional and physical abuse on more than several occasions life was good for myself and my daughter.

THIS WAS MY PERCEPTION ON MY LIFE AND NO ONE COULD TELL ME ANY DIFFERENT.

As my daughter got older and started to become a teenager their relationship was just like any girl and her father. She had her son at 19 and he was a great support to her. My relationship with him never got better and in 2014 we finally sold our house and separated. Me single and living alone since. NEVER had I lived alone in my life.

Living alone.

So it’s 2014, I’m 42 and I’ve just moved into my 1st ever place alone. I’m a big girl now and about to embark on a journey that will take me places (mentally and spiritually) I never knew were possible. Work is going well as I have a really good career and apart from my weight I’m happy. I’ve been talking online to a guy and although it’s not ideal, it’s right for me at this stage. He is Ghanaian and YES I had him investigated and he is legit and I’m learning new ways of being all the time. Now don’t get me wrong I’m not stupid and am very aware of internet scams. Needless to say I traveled to Ghana alone in 2015 and had the most wonderful time with him and have been going back and forth since then. My last visit was in 2018 and was most likely my last. Also an end to my relationship.